Please help me

[Kelly30]

Sorry to hear your going through this hun, thinking of you xx

[secretly wishing]

No words just xx

[Lotti]

Thinking of you.

xxxx

[Kana]

Hi, thanks for your comment to my post yesterday - i'm the one having CVS on Monday, not looking forward
I spoke to a very close friend(a mother of two) of mine this afternoon and she told me her story. With both of her children, her NT measurement was 5mm and she was told there was a great risk. She had her blood test but refused amnio, and then both children were born just as healthy as they could be.

So my fingers are crossed, thinking of you. xx

[snoobs]

thinking of you honey hope you get the answer soon xxxxxx

[caroline]

Hello

I cannot imagine the fear and shock you are feeling now, but I would truly, truly stop Googling and investigating too much yet, I really believe a little information can make you feel far worse! My wonderful, wonderful gynae (here in SA you get an actual obstetrician - which you pay loads for but it is fantastic because he or she is basically totally in your corner and knows you very well and you see them monthly) has said that bloods can be very far wrong, so can nuchal folds done the usual way, that if there is doubt of any kind, he always recommends a 3D scan that does a full, detailed assessment at no risk at all to the baby. No waiting for results, no needles. Of course, if that comes back with a poor outlook, then amnio or whatever, but most of the time, it's just statistics and nothing further to worry about. I would go and get a private 3 D scan with a radiologist. I know they are heinously expensive, but in your case, it will mean peace of mind and a happy pregnancy, so what price on that? Please let us know how you go, you're now very much on my mind! My mum had me at 40 as a first timer way back in the 70's and was viewed as a medical anomaly, was told to ''not bother with an amnio, there is very likely to be something wrong, let's just wait and see'' and said she was literally vomiting with worry till her sister gave the gynae what-for and demanded an amnio... and here I am, witty, beautiful and wildly intelligent (lol)!

[Ocean Star]

I cant tell you how comforting it is to log on and see so many people being kind and thinking of us. I really really appreciate it, thank you all.

Caroline, thanks for your reply, you are absolutely right about the googling thing, although I have to say I am the type of person who weirdly finds it better if I know all the various posibilities even if they are negative. I have stopped now though as theres literally nothing else I can take in.

I dont want to wallow, people have been through worse than this. We have one beautiful, happy , intelligent, funny, gorgeous daughter and I am so increadibly greatful for that. If nothing else this has made me remember to be thankful for what we already have.

[doodlebug]

Thinking of you sweetie. I hope the results are back soon xx

[SparklyUnicorn]

Thinking of you xx

[Ocean Star]

No phone call today. Went into work but was in pieces. I am so lucky to have such wonderful colleagues, they are so fab. I didn't have to go in but couldn't stay at home on my own so I just went in and did bits and bobs to help out. Got an unexpected call from an unknown number and totally lost it when I realised it wasn't the hospital, I was crying and shaking.

To make it worse a colleague in the same building came over at lunch time and announced that she is pregnant but has waited till all clear all from th 12 week scan to announce. Am pleased for her, honestly, she's such a lovely girl, but it felt like a punch in the stomach all the same.

Another crappy day

[CakeGal]

Hi hun. I'd been checking all day to see if you'd heard. The waiting must be torture. I pray that no news is good news. Let us know if you hear tomorrow. We are all hoping for the best for you xxx

[Charmed]

The waiting must be horrendous, hope you get the news you want today x

[Sesame seed]

So sorry you are going through this. Hope you hear soon x

[Kana]

I will also be checking here all day today. Thinking of you. xxx

[CakeGal]

Any news sweetie? Been thinking of you xx